Couples tend to find it very hard to admit they need to talk to a counsellor, unless they have reached crisis point - and then it may be too late. This is such a painful and difficult stage and so it takes far more effort and willingness for a couple to find solutions on their own.

I encounter a good deal of frustration and anger at the outset of counselling - knots which seem almost impossible to unravel at this stage. Yet with the unfolding process of counselling sessions, it is extraordinary how two people can find that they get to know each other surprisingly better, and ultimately more deeply than ever before.